Marriage and Relationships

It’s her friends

Posted on by Kenneth Ballard / 0 Comment

From Reddit:

Hey everyone, thank you in advance for taking the time to read my story. I need some sound advice on this issue. I (26) and my husband (26) got into an argument last night because he doesn’t want me to go on a girls trip to Miami. Here’s the back story. He and I were planning a trip to miami to see his friends and my friends came up to me a little afterwards and said that they wanted to plan a trip to Miami. I discussed it with my husband to get his opinion on if we should just do one big trip together or separate. We decided to go together since it’s cheaper that way. Then we started to plan the trip. Unfortunately his friends said they weren’t able to go and another one of his friends never even responded. Which leads just him, me and my three friends. We were still planning the trip but I started to hear less and less from my husband and anything he wanted to do on the trip.

I asked him if he still wanted to go since he would be the only guy there and he’s not really cool with my friends. He said that he doesn’t think it’s a good idea for either of us to go because we’re going to be moving and it’s not a good idea financially. He never mentioned anything about this beforehand when his friends were going. Now that they aren’t going, it’s no longer a good idea. Before I continue I want to address the moving situation. At this time we’re living with my mom because we’re waiting for military housing. We’re not paying movers or anything. We don’t have a lot of stuff and we’re getting a uhaul thats going to probably be about $100. My friends and family are helping out (the same exact friends I’m going on a trip with). And I let him know that it wasn’t expensive moving out of our old apartment. We’re moving up the street, not to a different state.

This I reminded him of, and I also asked him how was it a good idea before and now your friends backed out and now you think it’s a bad idea. He said he’s always thought it was a bad idea he just didn’t say anything…

Next he said that I should use my money to save it and pay down credit card bills. Here is my issue with that. I am the finance person in the house. My husband hates when I say we need to save money and pay debt off. He tells me that I’m acting like a mom and that I don’t have the right to tell him what to do with his money. So we made an agreement that we combined our finances and everything in the household gets paid first, I.e bills, debt, groceries, saving. Whatever is left over we split it 50-50 and we can’t delight what either of the two of us do with that money since it’s our money. His words by the way. Now he’s telling me that I don’t need to spend my money to go to Miami and I need to save it to put it back into the house. I reminded him that’s done with the house hold money. We prioritize the house first before what we personally want. Whatever I have left over I’m saving my personal money to go on the trip and he can’t tell me what I’m supposed to do with my money. I also want to add he’s not saying the same thing about his personal money, just my own. I told him he can’t tell me what I can or can’t do with my personal money. That’s something we agreed on because he didn’t want that to be done to him. He said that he’s not telling me but he’s highly recommending it. But he’s literally telling what to do with my money. I’m not late on anything, I doubt pay all my bills and I tell him to the the same yet he says in doing to much.

Then he said that going on a girl trip to Miami is single people activity and a married women and shouldn’t be going to Miami. I have to he honest, that threw me for a loop. I just wanted to go on a trip with my friends. He said ” I don’t think it’s best for a married women to go on a girls trip. I know two people are married (two each other) but one girl isn’t and I just think that’s single people activities.” I asked how am I acting single for going on a trip with my friends. He said that he didn’t say I was acting single but that it’s single people activities.

I used to live in key west as a kid. We would travel to Miami a lot and I haven’t been back since. Down there we were going to key west to go see my childhood home. On top of everything, my husband has the full itinerary of what we’re going to be doing in Miami. It’s full of museums, site seeing. We don’t go to clubs and we don’t even drink.

It hurt my feeling that he thinks that of me and he’s pushing it so hard that I’m acting single if I go to Miami. But now I don’t know what to do. I feel like he’s trying to control me or he’s upset that his friends are not going so it taking it out on me.

I’ve never been on a girls trip before. The only trip I’ve ever been on is with family or with him. He’s been on trips where it’s just him and we were just talking about him going to see his best friend in Texas and I’m supporting him and telling him to go. But when it’s me I’m acting single and being irresponsible. So am I wrong? Should I sit this one out?

Unsurprisingly many are interpreting his actions as being controlling.

But let’s break down the situation. Initially the trip was going to be him and a few friends plus her and a few friends. His friends backed out so he decided he wasn’t going to go. She decided to convert it to a girl’s trip and he objected – whether rightly or wrongly is up for debate.

But there’s one aspect of this that many are overlooking in the quick bid to label him as controlling: her friends. It’s her friends – or at least one among them – that he doesn’t trust. That’s why he backed out when his friends did and turned against the idea of her turning the trip into a girl’s trip.

So why didn’t he say that instead of coming up with all kinds of excuses – e.g., finances when he was perfectly okay spending the money for the trip until his friends backed out?

The answer is plainly obvious to anyone who knows how men think. Most men are wired to avoid conflict in general, not just with the women in our lives. And saying outright he doesn’t want her to go on the trip with her friends because he doesn’t trust one or more of them would most likely lead to a fight. And he’s choosing a path that avoids saying the obvious – again, he doesn’t like or trust her friends – to keep the peace.

She’s already aware he’s not exactly cozy with her friends – “he’s not really cool with my friends”. And it doesn’t take a leap of faith to go from “he’s not really cool with my friends” to… “he doesn’t want me going on this trip because of my friends”.

It isn’t important for him to buddy up to her girlfriends – I never considered that with my wife’s friends. And doing that would likely not work out well if she’s in any way territorial or easily becomes jealous. But it is important that he not be on any kind of sour note with any of them.

Strangely, though, he’s likely to not bring up that he’s on any kind of sour note with any of her friends to avoid looking like he’s trying to get between her and the friend(s) in question. It isn’t difficult to picture how that comes across. Since a lot of people see their friends as an extension of themselves and identities, him questioning any of her friends comes across as questioning her.

So he avoids that to avoid a potentially larger conflict. And the disquiet manifests in other ways.

It’s excuses as to why she shouldn’t go on a girl’s trip or even just hang out with them. Various side comments or behaviors that show or imply he doesn’t trust one or more of them. Provided she isn’t ignoring or just dismissing them. In the same way he shouldn’t ignore or dismiss any disquiet she presents about any of his friends – just to get that out of the way in case you, dear reader, think I’m being one-sided here.

And that’s provided she doesn’t get defensive of any disquiet he does present. Since, again, to a lot of people, questioning any of their friends can often come across as questioning them.

And what’s worse… he can’t avoid looking controlling expressing his discomfort with her friends. He can’t avoid coming across as trying to get between them, separate her from them, regardless of how well-intentioned he is and how justified his reasoning. The hops aren’t difficult to make anymore based on where modern discourse regarding relationships has largely gone: “he’s trying to separate her from her friends” becomes “he’s trying to isolate her from everyone” or “he’s controlling and manipulative” to… “he’s abusing her!”

Meaning the friends would then try to pull her away from him. On the girl’s trip with the intent, express or implied, to attempt to convince her to leave him.

Because if he has a problem with her friends, he’s got to go… Right?

Ethics/Feminism/Health care

CPR and sexual assault. Yes, really…

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Let’s talk… CPR? Because apparently women aren’t being saved often enough via CPR. And the blame is… not using female mannequins for CPR training, apparently…

In the comments to the above short, a LOT of men pointed out that the problem isn’t that.

For starters, most men likely were trained for CPR on a female mannequin. Specifically the Rescuci Anne mannequin. I was. In high schools in two different parts of the country. This is where the “Annie, are you okay?” line comes from. And this was pretty much the standard for CPR training mannequins for decades, at least through the end of the 20th century.

And a female mannequin is perfect for CPR training anyway. Simply because a woman’s breasts when she’s laying down tell you exactly where to place the heel of your wrist for performing chest compressions: right between them toward the lowest part of the sternum. So why would female mannequins not be used for CPR training? Well apparently that’s the case currently.

But is that really a problem? Not really, and I don’t see why anyone would think it to be one. A woman’s chest anatomy isn’t so different from a man’s that training on a male mannequin cannot transfer.

So something else is afoot. And it’s quite simply… women aren’t receiving CPR nearly as often as men because men aren’t nearly as willing to perform it on a woman. So why is that? Are men afraid of boobs? Hardly. Instead it might have something to do with headlines like this: Chinese Teacher, 42, Faces Groping Allegations For Performing CPR On Woman.

And that was pointed out to Dr Gabrielle. Who then… completely lost the plot.

And as one commenter pointed out in very striking fashion in response, Dr Gabrielle was completely missing the point:

This response misses the asymmetry in how people evaluate risk.

The issue isn’t whether false accusations are statistically common. Fear doesn’t operate on base rates. It operates on perceived downside. No man is doing probability calculations in that moment. The thought process is simply: if this goes wrong, it could ruin my life. Whether that outcome is rare is beside the point — the cost is unbounded from the individual’s perspective.

So evidence about rarity doesn’t actually address the fear. You’re responding to the middle of the equation, but the decision happens upstream, at the level of threat perception, not rational risk assessment.

That’s why this is largely a social trust problem, not an information problem. When people feel they can’t rely on others to act in good faith, they avoid actions where the downside is personal and severe, even if the probability is low. CPR falls into that category for some men.

You can disagree with that behavior morally, but explaining it requires understanding how fear under asymmetric risk actually works.

This is similar to flying versus driving. Everyone knows flying is statistically safer than driving, yet fear of flying is common while fear of driving is not. That’s because people don’t evaluate risk by frequency alone. They evaluate it by the severity of the outcome if something goes wrong. Driving has a wide range of outcomes — many accidents are minor or survivable — whereas a plane crash has a narrow outcome distribution that is almost always catastrophic. When failure implies near-certain death, probability matters less than consequence. Fear tracks the worst-case scenario, not the average one.

That any men are accused of sexual assault for performing CPR on a woman is enough to deter men from performing CPR on women. We just don’t want to take the risk.

You’ve probably seen this comic panel floating around:

That came out in 2013. MeToo had yet to launch and leave behind it’s dinosaur-ending blast crater. But what was in full-swing at that time was online feminism giving us plenty of ideas like… Schrodinger’s Rapist… (I wish I was making that up…) And “if she’s drunk, she can’t consent“. And “believe all women” was coming around the bend.

So it’s unsurprising that we now have women going to TikTok and other platforms saying “Why don’t men approach us anymore?” or “Why are men oblivious to our attempts at flirting?” Because the cost of guessing wrong on subtle hints is a hell of a lot higher today than when I was in college.

So now it has become… “Why won’t men perform CPR on us?”

You’ve probably heard of Good Samaritan laws. These exist to shield someone from civil and criminal liability for any adverse outcomes (e.g., additional or severe injury) when they are acting reasonably and in good faith to save someone’s life or otherwise remove them from danger . If you pull someone from a burning building or… catch someone jumping to their death like in The Incredibles, you can’t be held liable for any injuries or other adverse consequences that result from those reasonable good faith actions.

But that only stops actions within Courts of Law, not the court of public opinion. As another commenter pointed out:

Also, a bystander with a camera phone can video you while screaming nonsense “You don’t have to touch her like that!” Or other comments that would create doubt in the rest of the people later on. I’ve heard some people’s biggest fear is becoming a meme online. Add that on top of the perceived false allegations. You’re probably better off aiming for women to get training in CPR in this age of ignorance.

And I’ll go one step further.

Remember where I said that Good Samaritan laws only protect someone acting “in good faith”. It would not surprise me if there are women out there who feel that no man can “in good faith” perform CPR on a woman. Because even a willingness to do so is rooted purely in his desire to touch women, their breasts in particular, especially a woman who can’t fight back against him.

And let’s not even go down the rabbit hole of “rescue breathing”…

Crew58 seems to have grasped the concept as well in declaring that “Administering CPR and using an AED is not assault. It’s time to change our way of thinking”. And bringing up AEDs is apt here since administering one does require removing clothing since the pads must be applied to skin.

Others taking advantage of good Samaritans is why Good Samaritan laws exist to begin with. There are outcomes, though, that laws cannot prevent. Such as a Good Samaritan’s actions and motivations for carrying them out being litigated in the court of public opinion.

And the second-guessing of a man’s motivations or actions in performing CPR on a woman.

You’ve likely heard stories of found wallets being “UNO reversed” (or is it “reverse UNO’d”?) into accusations of theft. You find a wallet, take it to the rightful owner, and they turn around and say “There was $500 in cash in here. Where is it?” or something like that accompanied with a threat to call the police if you don’t front the cash on the spot. It’s a common scam tactic, unfortunately.

And knowing that such could be pulled on us, my wife and I didn’t hesitate in turning a wallet we found in our apartment parking lot over to the police. Not the apartment manager. Not back to the rightful owner. The Lenexa Police Department. (We lived just down the road from a precinct.) With our contact details attached. And our fingerprints on the wallet, too. Which, I’ve pointed out before, both our fingerprints are on file since we both had concealed carry permits.

Plus it sets up an instant check had the wallet’s owner tried to pull a “reverse UNO” and accuse us of theft, since the officer could instantly reverse that back on them, “Why would they steal from the wallet before turning it in to us with their identification details attached to it?” You know… why would we set ourselves up for an instant arrest and criminal charges? Sure plenty of people are likely dumb enough to do that, but most of us are not.

As the first commenter I quoted above said, “When people feel they can’t rely on others to act in good faith, they avoid actions where the downside is personal and severe, even if the probability is low.” Such as handing the wallet back to its rightful owner instead of taking it straight to the police. And I believe we mentioned the probability of that to the officer as our reasoning for giving it over to the police.

But the fallout from that lack of good faith is people avoiding being Good Samaritans to begin with. People leaving wallets where they fell to be picked up with someone with genuinely nefarious interests or motives. And men, specifically, avoiding performing CPR and rescue breathing on women to avoid the likelihood, however small, of being accused of sexual assault.

Crime

Crossing lines

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While there is no universal Federal precedent over this topic, it is generally illegal for someone to lay a trap against potential criminal activity. And where the criminal is injured due to the trap, the person who laid the trap can be held liable for the outcome, including facing criminal charges for it.

The readily-cited case in that instance is Katko v. Briney, 183 N.W.2d 657 (Iowa 1971). To be brief, the case involved a shotgun rigged to go off when an inside door was opened. And the Iowa Supreme Court ruled, in short, that there are limits to how far you can go to protect property.

And rigging traps designed to cause injury or death is generally illegal.

Fast forward to modern day when everyone is having packages delivered to their homes on a regular basis, making “porch pirates” a common problem. And in response, bait packages have become a common sight online. While none have (so far) actually killed anyone, lines are being crossed…

To the genius who thought it would be funny to load an Amazon package on their porch with EXPIRED MILK — I’m filing charges… ..

I opened what looked like a normal Amazon delivery while sitting in my car, and it burst open. Rotten milk splashed everywhere — soaking my seats, carpet, clothes, and door panels. The stench hit instantly. Completely disgusting.. .. .

This wasn’t some harmless joke. It was intentional property damage. Expired milk doesn’t just “air out.” It seeps in, curdles, stains, and lingers…. .

Now my car smells like a dairy farm dumpster in the middle of July, and I can’t even sit in it without gagging.. …

So yes, someone will be paying for professional detailing and any related repairs. I refuse to live with sour milk baked into my interior.

Hope those five seconds of laughter were worth it. ….. .

If this porch pirate sued the person who left the bait package, the pirate would prevail. And if the pirate sought criminal charges against the baiter, the baiter could easily face conviction. And it’s simply because of how far they decided to go with the bait package.

Yes, there actually is a line to how far you can go to protect personal property.

The vast majority of the bait packages being left involve things that are generally harmless and more of an inconvenience than anything else. Things like… glitter and colored powders that also make an entertaining display to onlookers and those watching the camera footage after the fact. And it also makes it very easy to identify porch pirates to police, in similar fashion to how pepper sprays now typically include colored or UV-reactive dyes.

But you do have to be careful in how you go about that. Set a trap that causes injury requiring treatment and you could be facing criminal charges alongside the porch pirate. And the criminal charges against you would be far worse than those against the pirate as well.

Sure it’s easy to say “don’t steal”. Briney argued that Katko could’ve avoided getting shot by… not breaking into the farmhouse. Briney even said his only regret was not aiming the shotgun higher – i.e. aiming it so it killed Katko instead of severely injuring him, as if that would’ve been the better outcome. Which is basically arguing that there is no limit to how far someone can go to protect personal property or deter theft. Including setting up an improvised explosive device that kills a porch pirate.

“Well if they weren’t out stealing packages….” Yeah that argument won’t fly.

“They valued the package more than their life.” Umm… no. There are various force disparities that can be anticipated depending on the crime being attempted and the circumstances in which it is attempted. Accosting someone openly in public does carry with it the risk the person you’re accosting is armed. And while breaking into an abandoned building does carry with it the risk of injury, it does not carry the risk of encountering a lethal trap set by the property owner.

And the same with stealing packages off someone’s porch.

Docker

The well-known saga

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With Discord’s recent announcement that they’re going to declare everyone as teenagers unless they go through age verification, my wife and I are looking at alternatives. That way she has something onto which she can move her friends for their weekly D&D games.

Enter Element.

But I’m not going to be talking about trying to get an Element setup off the ground. Yet. Instead I’m focusing on just one part of that: the .well-known files that Matrix clients use for auto-discovery. And files that have the potential to be make-or-break for your setup.

So up-front question: did you know you actually do not have to manually create that?

This is a small detail all of the setup guides I’ve seen so far have overlooked. And it was something I only saw when looking through the Synapse documentation. The setting you’re looking for is public_baseurl. Set this to your homeserver’s hostname and Synapse will expose the .well-known/matrix/client endpoint and generate the JSON for you based on your configuration.

And if you’re setting up to use the Matrix Authentication Service (which you should), it will automatically include the necessary details based on your configuration.

So if your homeserver.yaml includes public_baseurl: "https://[homeserver-hostname]" – and, yes, it must be in quotes – and you’re using the MAS, the JSON output will be this:

{
  "m.homeserver": {
    "base_url": "https://[homeserver-hostname]/"
  },
  "org.matrix.msc2965.authentication": {
    "issuer": "https://[auth-hostname]/",
    "account": "https://[auth-hostname]/account/"
  }
}

In setting up the authentication service, you already know the front-facing hostname is handled by that service’s configuration, not Synapse’s configuration. And Synapse queries the MAS for those values for the output. It’s a quick check on your configuration, since not seeing that output or not seeing the correct values means something is misconfigured. And it preserves the SSoT principle – single source of truth – for your settings.

Mostly.

Unfortunately Synapse does not generate the needed output from the matrix_rtc settings (I’ve filed a bug about that), but there’s an easy way to add that using the extra_well_known_client_content setting:

matrix_rtc:
  transports:
  - type: livekit
    livekit_service_url: https://[rtc-hostname]/

# You also need to set serve_server_wellknown as true to also generate and
# serve .well-known/matrix/server for MatrixRTC

serve_server_wellknown: true
extra_well_known_client_content:
  org.matrix.msc4143.rtc_foci:
  - type: livekit
    livekit_service_url: https://[rtc-hostname]/

Yes it does mean you’re duplicating settings in your homeserver.yaml, but this does give you an avenue to avoid needing to create the JSON files manually. This is what the final JSON will look like:

{
  "m.homeserver": {
    "base_url": "https://[homeserver-hostname]/"
  },
  "org.matrix.msc2965.authentication": {
    "issuer": "https://[auth-hostname]/",
    "account": "https://[auth-hostname]/account/"
  },
  "org.matrix.msc4143.rtc_foci": [
    {
      "type": "livekit",
      "livekit_service_url": "https://[rtc-hostname]/"
    }
  ]
}

Docker

Traefik and single-host Docker

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Before diving in, let’s first establish my use case, which is likely very similar to yours.

I have Docker deployed to my virtualization server with plenty of containers running on it – Portainer, Frigate NVR, Bitwarden, etc. – plus a couple VMs. And I started using Traefik after discovering it with my current employer’s Kubernetes clusters.

For the uninitiated, Traefik Proxy, specifically, allows you to use hostnames to route traffic to your containers rather than relying on port numbers. Then you just need to make sure you have proper DNS resolution for the new hostname. Traefik then uses routing rules to determine which container gets the traffic, keying off the hostname provided via SNI or the Host header in an HTTP request.

And it’s a far less complicated means of putting your browser-accessible containers and services behind an HTTPS proxy.

Almost all of the containers deployed to my Docker server are isolated to their own networks and spun up or down using docker compose. Only two of those Docker services are not behind Traefik: Plex and a MySQL container I use for GnuCash. The MySQL client supports SNI as of version 8.1.0. GnuCash relies on DBD::MySQL, which does not support SNI as of this writing. Plex requires host networking when deployed as a Docker container.

And so does Traefik if you want it to route traffic seamlessly.

Traefik also makes a binary distribution you can run as a service outside Docker. And it might be available from your distro’s package manager. But beware that it may not be the latest version, so you might be missing out on critical security updates like the CVE fix in v3.6.7, the latest version as of this writing.

It’s safe to say, though, that the vast majority of Traefik deployments are via docker compose or the Helm chart for Kubernetes clusters. And as mentioned, I have Traefik deployed via Docker, which is where this comes in:

services:
  traefik:
    image: traefik:v3.6
    container_name: traefik
    restart: unless-stopped

    network_mode: host

    volumes:
      - type: bind
        source: /var/run/docker.sock
        target: /var/run/docker.sock
        read_only: true

      - type: bind
        source: ./certs
        target: /certs
        read_only: true

      - type: bind
        source: ./dynamic
        target: /dynamic
        read_only: true

      - type: bind
        source: ./traefik.yml
        target: /etc/traefik/traefik.yml

    labels:

      - traefik.enable=true
      - traefik.docker.network=traefik

      # When using host networking, you can't use the "api@internal" service
      # to access the dashboard. Instead you have to link the dashboard
      # (port 8080) to a new one.

      - traefik.http.services.traefik.loadbalancer.server.port=8080
      - traefik.http.routers.traefik.service=traefik

      - traefik.http.routers.traefik.entrypoints=websecure
      - traefik.http.routers.traefik.rule=Host(`traefik`) || Host(`traefik.localdomain`)

And alongside the docker-compose.yaml is this traefik.yaml for configuration.

global:
  checkNewVersion: true
  sendAnonymousUsage: false

log:
    level: INFO

accessLog: true

entryPoints:
  web:
    address: ":80"
    http:
      redirections:
        entryPoint:
          to: websecure
          scheme: https
          permanent: true

  websecure:
    address: ":443"
    http:
      tls: true

  # Add any other ports you need - e.g., 3306 for MySQL, 6379 for Redis, etc.

providers:
  docker:
    exposedbydefault: false

  file:
    filename: /dynamic/tls.yaml

api:
  dashboard: true
  insecure: true

And this is the folder structure where these files live:

traefik/
|- certs/
   |- [container1.crt]
   |- [container1.key]
   |- [container2.crt]
   |- [container2.key]
   |- ...
|- dynamic/
   |- tls.yaml
|- docker-compose.yml
|- traefik.yml

So the above should be enough to get you started using Traefik with Docker. Change settings where you need – e.g., dumping logs to files instead of the output available via docker logs.

You will need to read the documentation for deploying your individual services with the proper labels so they are properly picked up by Traefik.

Elections/Supreme Court

No, the Supreme Court did NOT “approve” California’s districting map

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You’ve probably seen variants of this floating around:

On February 4, 2026, the Supreme Court issued an order in Tangipa v. Newsom, Docket No. 25A839, that says simply:

The application for writ of injunction pending appeal presented to Justice Kagan and by her referred to the Court is denied.

A writ of injunction is a request by the appellant to a higher Court to order a lower Court to issue an injunction in a pending case. And the petition for that injunction was denied.

The case itself hasn’t been dismissed, nor is this any kind of final order or disposition. The case is still pending in the lower Courts. The only thing the appellants sought was an order to postpone use of the new maps still after the case is disposed, provided it’s disposed in California’s favor. And the Supreme Court denied that request. And since the appellants have no other recourse, they can’t seek any kind of injunction against use of the new maps unless something new enters the picture, like new maps.

Thankfully there are some media outlets who are properly reporting the current state of the case over acting like the case is now done. In an article for UPI, Mike Heuer says this:

Although the writ of injunction was denied, the ruling does not end legal challenges to the new map for California congressional districts that was approved by 64% of California voters on Nov. 4.

It does, however, increase the likelihood that the newly drawn districts will stay active during the Nov. 3 midterm election.

This is the correct interpretation of the Court’s action on Wednesday. Again the case is still pending, and will likely still be fully pending beyond November.

Ethics

On Candace Owens

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Before Candace Owens became known as a conservative firebrand and commentator, she was a leftist. And as a leftist, she started a very small online publication called Degree180. And under that brand started a Kickstarter campaign for an online platform called Social Autopsy.

The project was panned from all sides. Owens and her company became public enemy #1 overnight.

So what was Social Autopsy? It was a platform for doxing and deanonymizing people en masse. The devastation such a platform would have wrought on the world, had it actually gotten off the ground, cannot be understated. I’ll let her own FAQ video shed light on this:

Surprisingly that video is still live – at least as of the time this article went public. It was released March 22, 2016. Keep that date in mind.

The Kickstarter went live on April 12, 2016, and… didn’t last long. In launching the campaign, Owens and her company did the smart thing and tried to create something… But if a later post by Owens was any indication, the site wasn’t supposed to be publicly available. But whoever was coding the site didn’t bother setting up even simple HTTP authentication to prevent that from happening. What little was there was collected by The Wayback Machine.

Part of the backlash against her came from both an expected and unexpected direction: Zoe Quinn. If you know anything about Gamergate, you know that name very well.

For the uninitiated, I’ll try to be brief.

Back in 2014, one of Zoe Quinn’s ex’s published a scathing article about her that became known colloquially as the “Five Guys” controversy as that is how many men the ex alleged Zoe Quinn had… engaged at various times. One such person was Nathan Grayson, a gaming journalist. At the time, Quinn had created a game called “Depression Quest” (still available on Steam) and was trying to get attention on it, so her affair with a gaming journalist became a focal point, even though her game hadn’t yet been completed at the time of the affair.

Prior to that article being published, massive collusion between game developers and media publications had long been alleged.

And what happened on August 28, 2014, certainly didn’t help any claims to the contrary.

Twelve (12) gaming publications published the same article, known as the “Gamers are Dead” article, on the same day. That is seen as the colloquial start of what became known as “Gamergate”. Actor Adam Baldwin – i.e., Jayne from Firefly – is credited as coining the term and starting the hashtag on Twitter.

One discovery that solidified just how right Gamergate was about the gaming media was the GameJourosPros mailing list.

The gaming media moved swiftly to control the narrative – and mostly succeeded, given the Wikipedia article on the topic – and reframed “Gamergate” as a hate campaign against women in gaming, eventually women in general, and, specifically, Zoe Quinn. Trying to dodge the allegations coming from Gamergate by acting like they were now trying to protect women and minorities in gaming or acting on their behalf, which led to the start of the NotYourShield hashtag.

Now the one thing that needs to be highlighted is how compressed the timeline for this actually was. The time between “Five Guys” article and the “Gamers are Dead” articles going live was… less than three (3) weeks. The long-standing allegations against the gaming media and developers, along with Quinn going after another group called The Fine Young Capitalists, a women-centric gaming development organization, led to this blowing up quick and violent.

YouTuber ShortFatOtaku (a.k.a., “Dev”) has a very good overview of the entire controversy:

And a pretty good timeline of the whole thing is available on Tiki-Toki. Yeah, there’s a LOT more to this than those trying to control the narrative want you to know.

I’d be lying if I said there was no harassment toward Zoe Quinn or any of the other prominent women in gaming – e.g., Anita Sarkeesian. But contrary to a very popular belief – again, just look at the Wikipedia article on it – the vast majority of the attention of Gamergate was directed at the gaming media. Calling for greater transparency and an end to the massive conflicts of interest that were uncovered. Zoe Quinn was a tiny blip on Gamergate’s radar and practically non-existent on their list of targets.

But she used her victimhood from that to form a non-profit called “Crash Override Network” aimed at providing resources for those experiencing online bullying.

Anyway…

So what does Gamergate have to do with this? Because Quinn reached out to Owens while the Kickstarter was still live, and Quinn alleged that “Gamergate” would go after Owens. And it’s Candace’s response to Quinn that reveals that Candace Owens has… always been a conspiracy theorist.

Quinn’s one-off allegation did end up being true, but also incomplete. No one wanted Social Autopsy – except those hoping to use it for nefarious purposes. Everyone could see what Social Autopsy could turn into.

Everyone except… Candace Owens.

And she puts her penchant for conspiracy theorist thinking on display, along with her abject ignorance of the online space, in crafting one hell of a narrative, both in that post and on Twitter, in which Zoe Quinn and Randi Lee Harper turned to and led the Gamergate calvary to get Social Autopsy shut down.

Yeah, it’s… bizarre in the kindest terms.

So after all of that, Owens went dark online. Her above-linked response to Quinn & Co. was taken down sometime between September 14 and 17, 2016.

Her last post to Degree180 was on November 13, 2016. An article called “Dear Liberals… Love, Former Liberals,” which kind of hints at her… transition. Degree180 itself went offline sometime in 2017 when their hosting expired and wasn’t renewed. SocialAutopsy.com eventually went down as well, also sometime in 2017 when their hosting expired.

Sadly, though, the idea of a doxing site like Social Autopsy didn’t die with Social Autopsy as we saw with the high-profile leaks from the very insecure servers for an online platform called Tea. And contrary to labels, it wasn’t a hack. They just had the critical servers publicly exposed with no authentication, meaning anyone who could find the endpoints had access. And finding that information was pretty simple to anyone familiar with “developer mode” in a desktop browser.

Moving on…

July 9, 2017. Owens reappeared with a new YouTube channel called “Red Pill Black” and a new video called “Mom, Dad…I’m a conservative”:

Now was her… transition into a conservative genuine? Given the aforementioned article, I think so. Since it’s either that or she’s playing one hell of a long con. And she did say “Social Autopsy is why I’m a conservative.” So the conspiracy theory she manufactured to explain the backlash against Social Autopsy led her to becoming a conservative… Anyone seeing red flags on that?

Despite attempts to get her to do such, such as by Blaire White in an open debate on The Rubin Report on November 7, 2017, Owens has, as far as I’m aware, never openly and unambiguously denounced or disavowed Social Autopsy – and I welcome correction if someone has it. I mean, at least there’s video of Trump unequivocally denouncing white supremacists despite repeated claims he never did so.

So taking the above, it should be no surprise that Candace Owens has a history of running with wild theories. It’s one of the reasons Brigitte Macron, the First Lady of France, has filed suit against Owens for the outlandish theory that Macron is… Male-to-Female Trans. The lawsuit was filed in Delaware and is docketed as Case No. N25C-07-194.

And then there are all the wild accusations Owens has been throwing around regarding Charlie Kirk’s assassination on the scale of the kind of theories that the JFK assassination couldn’t possibly have been just a one-man operation. Now there is evidence suggesting that the person who carried out Kirk’s assassination had conspired or colluded with others before the fact but otherwise acted alone in carrying it out.

But Owens, for some reason, doesn’t seem to think the reality behind it is that simple. That the assassination plot extends well beyond the person who carried it out and a few other individuals close to the assassin. And Social Autopsy and the conspiracy theory Owens manufactured to explain the backlash to it shows that her penchant for conspiracy theorist thinking isn’t new or unordinary.

The bigger problem is how far her conspiracy thinking is now going.

Immigration

“No one is illegal on stolen land”

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Let’s put this notion to bed already: “No one is illegal on stolen land”. A statement that sounds enlightening to the unenlightened, intelligent to the unintelligent.

Sovereignty is the name of the game here. You either have it or you don’t. There is no in-between.

Libertarians argue that everyone has their own personal sovereignty. And that we cede some of that sovereignty to create governments to protect that personal sovereignty. In much the way States ceded some of their sovereignty when creating the Federal government via the Constitution.

Part of the personal sovereignty we ceded to create governments is the power to make and enforce laws. So let’s take this to its logical conclusion.

“Stolen land” means there is an illegitimate claim to it. And I’ll avoid diving into the complication that would create if you tried to unravel that. Since… if you were to actually try to completely unravel that, you’d be talking about undoing millennia of land conquest across the world. Including by the various Native American Tribes in North and South America. Yeah, no, they absolutely are NOT innocent in history, and it’s about fucking time leftists stop pretending they are.

But, again, to say that the land occupied by the States comprising the United States is “stolen land”, you are, in short, saying that the sovereignty of the United States and all States therein is illegitimate. And by saying that, you are, by extension, saying that the Constitution is illegitimate because the sovereignty of the States that created it is illegitimate.

And the sovereignty of the States is illegitimate because the sovereignty of the people who created those State Constitutions is also illegitimate.

Again, there is no in-between.

This all means the United States has no right to national defense, since national sovereignty implies that right. So if any other country were to come into the United States and try to take us over, our military should, in short, just stand down and… let it happen. And, alongside that, anyone who wants to enter the United States is free to do so at any time and cannot be removed for any reason – i.e., “no one is illegal on stolen land”. No one can have an immigration status, so no one can have an illegal immigration status because… the sovereignty of the United States is illegitimate.

And before you scream “actually… your argument is invalid because it’s a slippery slope”, a slippery slope argument is not prima facie invalid, though a lot of people like to argue such. Because they can’t respond to what’s been said, and so need an easy out while screaming “Your argument is invalid, so I win by default!” Yeah… no.

Especially since we are seeing that very slippery slope play out in real life. With the attempts to interfere with immigration enforcement that have already led to two high-profile deaths.

And we’re seeing the erosion of sovereignty – both Federal and State sovereignty – play out in leftist cities when it comes to property rights – i.e. personal sovereignty – and the abject refusal by city and State prosecutors to actually prosecute personal property crimes like theft and squatting, which has led to some interesting political swings as well.

Yet Billie Eilish wants her property rights protected, hence the restraining order.

Again, you can’t have it both ways. Either the sovereignty of the United States is legitimate, meaning so are any laws passed that comply with the Constitution, or it is not.

Saying “no one is illegal on stolen land” immediately implies you see the sovereignty of the United States as illegitimate. So… when are you leaving?

Crime/Due process/Law

Affidavits are largely meaningless

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Contrary to popular belief, affidavits aren’t infallible.

People lie in affidavits… all. the. time. People lie on the stand under oath… all. the. time.

And that’s simply because… there’s largely no penalty for doing so.

You see… perjury is a rather… interesting crime. I wrote an article 10 years ago about the difference between “I don’t believe you” and “You’re lying”. And it boils down to whether I can prove that 1. what you’ve just said to me is false and 2. that you knew at the time you made your statements that they are false. Welcome to Perjury 101 and why I said there is largely no penalty for lying under oath, whether on the stand or in an affidavit.

The simple reality is that… perjury prosecutions are very, very few and far between. Even when there is a “smoking gun”, a perjury charge that could be easily proven beyond reasonable doubt – e.g., Bill Clinton lying under oath about his affair with Monica Lewinsky – there still may not be a prosecution for it.

The fact there’s largely no consequence to lying under oath – aside from losing out on whatever the lying was trying to facilitate or protect – means that you should always treat an affidavit or someone’s testimony with skepticism. Lots and lots of skepticism.

Someone attesting to something in an affidavit doesn’t make those statements prima facie true.

Since… anyone can really attest to anything “under penalty of perjury”. Such is about as meaningful as swearing to something with your hand on the Bible. Neither make lying impossible, yet many are quick to presume such.

Affidavits are often given the presumption of being incorruptible, infallible, and they’re treated as if they’re immune to being incorrect and, therefore, unimpeachable. Such as the above screenshot from an affidavit from the latest Epstein file drop.

Why would would someone attest to something in an affidavit that isn’t true, right? That’s about like asking “why would someone lie?” Not just “lie under oath”, but “lie” in general.

And one reason is, again, that the risk of actually being prosecuted for perjury is extremely low. Not zero, sure. But those prosecutions definitely aren’t happening as often as they really should be. Witnesses provably lie on the stand all. the. time. Yet almost none of them are prosecuted for it. Attestants to an affidavit provably lie in affidavits all. the. time. And yet… almost none of them are prosecuted for it.

And that is due to how due process actually works in criminal cases. The burden is entirely on the prosecutor to prove beyond reasonable doubt that 1. the statements in the affidavit are false and 2. the attestant knew at the time they attested to it that it is false. There are so many things that work against this, making perjury a damned hard charge to prove.

And if the statements in the affidavit are not provable either direction – meaning there is no evidence supporting the statements and nothing to prove they are impossible – then you can’t prove perjury occurred since you can’t prove the statements are false. Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence. And an example of this is the attestant to an affidavit or a witness under oath testifying to something that happened several decades ago for which no evidence is possible supporting the statements.

An easy example of that is Christine Blasey Ford, PhD, and her testimony against the confirmation of now-Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh. Pretty much everything Ford testified to was not provable. But because she was making those statements under oath, many presumed them to be correct merely on her assertion they are correct.

And people do much the same with affidavits, presume the statements are true or must be true even when they aren’t provable simply because someone was willing to sign their name to a piece of paper.

But when there is no penalty for lying, why should affidavits or testimony be trusted at all?

Again, in a perjury prosecution, the prosecutors have the burden of proving the statements false. Sometimes that’s easy – e.g., Bill Clinton and Mark Fuhrman. But rarely is that the case unless you have a “smoking gun”.

But even having a “smoking gun” doesn’t guarantee someone will be prosecuted for perjury.

Never accept an affidavit at face value. And if the affidavit is making claims that are not provable in either direction, there is no reason to accept it as true unless there is other corroborating evidence. But generally affidavits are gathered because there is no other corroborating evidence.

Debt

Worthwhile payments not being made

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And here’s the original tweet:

Let’s throw some numbers on this…

First, I doubt he borrowed the $79 thousand up front. Instead that was probably how much he borrowed across 4 years. So from, I presume, about 1982 to 1986. Which really was one of the worst times to be borrowing money due to inflation.

I’ll also presume the loan was in deferment while he was in school, so interest was being assessed that entire time unless he was making payments to at least keep up with that.

Now back in the 1980s, the total amount you could borrow through the Stafford loan program – i.e., “Federal student loans” – was $2500 per year according to this article. Stafford loans have the benefit of a capped interest rate. They’re still variable rate loans, but they were capped at 8%. In the 80s, this meant the interest rate was less than inflation. But capped interest rate also meant limited borrowing.

Again, it was limited to only $2,500 per year. Yet on average, Dave was borrowing nearly $20 thousand per year. So that extra $17,000 per year he borrowed would’ve come from private lenders and was not Federally insured. Meaning Dave was borrowing at whatever interest rate the banks came up with. And it was likely a variable interest rate as well.

And if the loan was in deferment while he was still in school, he likely accumulated interest across his 4 years in school such that he, in effect, owed about 1.5x what he borrowed in total. So already he was in the 6-figures for student loan debt and he hadn’t even started paying it back.

And that was in the 1980s. Just the principal alone, adjusted for inflation, would be about $230 thousand today. Add in the interest, which likely would’ve been capitalized – meaning, rolled into the principal – when he entered repayment, and that’s the equivalent of $300 thousand today.

And yet, he was paying on average… from late-1986 into 2022, so about 35-1/2 years… about $400 per month. On 6-figures of student loan debt.

And in that time, he’s accumulated $121,000 in interest at a rate of about $285/mo. Meaning the total interest being assessed averaged, given his monthly payment, probably about $675 per month, meaning an average interest rate of about 10%.

To get out from under the loans would’ve required him… probably tripling his monthly payments. Doubling would’ve at least overtaken the interest being assessed and allowed the principal to reduce. But tripling his payments was really the only option to make substantial headway and get the loans paid off in a more reasonable timeframe.

He should also have tried refinancing the loans at the various times when interest rates were at their lowest.